Ollie Hamiel: Bribery? I mean if you can afford to promise him something if he will get his GED? Or have you already tried that. Firmness in explaining that he will not always have you to give him a roof over his head and could he please do you the favor after all you have done for him. Its difficult to know what you have already tried with him but from how you describe him, he should respond to niceness which is good. I mean he isnt a druggie or alcoholic so Id bet on giving him a reward or something. He really does have to get his high school diploma dont you think? Later on he will regret and possibly blame you for it....Show more
Delphine Cajka: the problem is that he needs tough love,not to enable him,it sounds like he lacks confidence,and is afraid to socialize,if he is from a broken home,its probably the problem,boys need a father in there growing years for love and affirmation.his problem is not mental its emotional.
Mel Crapo: My advice: Take the vi! deo games and TV and make that kid get his GED. Help him get a job and get serious. Give him warnings: Shape up or ship out.He's taking advantage of the fact that he has you to fall back on. Let him know that you can't hold his hand and do everything for him.
Gladys Worthing: If the doctors found nothing wrong with him, you may want to look in the mirror. Take a good look at how you raised him. Did you give him everything? Are you still paying for everything? When he is in a jam, do you bail him out? If he quits jobs so easily, someone must be there for him to fall back on.Now, if this is the case, don't put yourself down - we all make mistakes. But, now is the time to tell him to get up on his feet. He is entering the adult world and has to start living like it. He has to get his GED (if not done already), pay for his own stuff (cell phone, clothes, entertainment, maybe rent to you) and show some initiative. Put him on a timeline to get his keester in gear -! whatever is reasonable, but not more than 2 or 3 months. He ! should be in school, getting educated or trained for his future, or be working full time.I have 4 kids, 2 older ones are boys 16 and 18. They work and pay for their cell phones, entertainment and most of their clothes. The older one will likely be paying rent this fall (that should be something - oy). The older one buys his own lunch food, as he works a full time job, now.Maybe it is just time to cut off the gravy train. I say this based on what I read in your question....Show more
Joesph Smithmyer: Since your son is 19 years old, he is considered an adult. What he does is Malingering and he will continue to do so if you let him get away with it. Check out job corps, they take kids his age, then give him choices like I did with my son : Army, Job Corps or second bridge to the left- but you are not staying here. My son chose job corps ( as I knew he would) and came back home after a year and a half with a highschool diploma, an It certificate and help finding a job! and retaining it. Since then he has been working and going to college - I'm proud of him. But I had to threaten to through him out before he got moving. Good Luck....Show more
Wilfred Santacruce: It sounds like he is bipolar. I would try to get him to see a mental health doctor, or volunteer him to do a medication study at a hospital. It sounds like he is depressed, has some self esteem issues maybe. But my advice is to get him to a mental health doctor.
Pam Rampadarat: give him omega 3 fish oils. cut down on the junk food. he sounds toxic
Otto Lingafelt: His lack of motivation means he doesn't care, ie, no discipline. The magic word is discipline. Have him join the military and let somebody else drill that into him. I have known very bright kids who drop out of school because they saw nothing of interest in life. They enrolled in the military and got a lot out of it. They actually test their IQs and proficiencies in different things. Not all start ! from the bottom.
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